The Power of Listening to Yourself
Studies show that women are more likely to second-guess themselves. Confidence in your inner knowing grows with practice—and it starts with tuning in.
I’ve been getting a lot of signals lately.
Whether through tarot readings, energy work, or even passing conversations—this message keeps surfacing:
Trust what you know. Lead with your gut. Step into your power.
I keep hearing it—as if the universe is making sure I don’t forget.
And maybe I need the reminder. I’m no stranger to second-guessing myself.
But I also know this: self-trust isn’t a one-time decision. It’s something we cultivate over and over again.
So I sat with this message and asked myself: When have I truly embodied it?
One moment stood out: March 2020.
A Seismic Shift that Led to Flow
For nearly a decade, I co-owned a boutique yoga studio. My business partner handled daily operations and the teaching schedule; I focused on marketing. We made most decisions together—until everything changed.
When the world shut down due to the pandemic in March of 2020, my business partner was in Florida; uncertainty was everywhere, and we had no roadmap.
I usually overthink things. But at that moment, I just knew.
I immediately moved us online, trained teachers, and rebuilt our schedule. I got us back up and running within the week.
With my business partner unable to work virtually and financial strain mounting, it would have been easier to close.
But our students needed connection more than ever. So I chose to lead.
What we thought would last three weeks stretched into nearly three years with me at the helm.
Something else happened, too.
The more I trusted myself, the more effortless it became. I moved into what positive psychology calls flow—a state where skill and instinct merge, where doubt disappears, and where action feels both natural and inevitable.
I wasn’t waiting for permission. I wasn’t second-guessing. I was doing exactly what needed to be done.
And I realized: this wasn’t just about keeping the business running. This was about learning to trust my own wisdom at a level I never had before.
A Message for the Moment
So why is the universe sending me these signals now?
We are once again living through volatile, uncertain times. The world feels unstable, but our best decisions never come from fear—they come from trusting what we already know.
And for women, the struggle to trust their inner voice runs deep.
Throughout history, women have been conditioned to second-guess themselves—to seek permission, to defer, to believe they weren’t enough to claim their own power.
And yet, time and time again, women have led. Even when they weren’t expected to. Even when they weren’t allowed to. Even when the world told them not to.
That’s why this message feels more urgent than ever—not just for me, but for all of us.
During Women’s History Month, we honor the resilience of women who have trusted their own wisdom—who stepped forward even when the world made them doubt themselves.
Women have always carried deep knowing—leading families, movements, and communities forward, often without recognition, often against resistance.
And yet, how often does self-doubt keep us small?
Even when we recognize our power, we may hesitate to wield it—questioning whether we’re ready, if we’ll get it right, or if we'll be too much.
As Marianne Williamson wrote:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."
Stepping into our power is about listening to our inner wisdom and trusting what it tells us.
And trust is something we cultivate when we practice tuning in. (Read on to learn how.)
How We Learn to Trust Ourselves
Inner knowing is the quiet voice.
Inner wisdom is the lesson learned.
Listening is the bridge.
Trusting yourself is following through.
Before we transitioned to a virtual studio, I had begun to oversee new areas of the business with greater autonomy. As my partner stepped back from daily operations due to personal reasons, I leaned in—taking on more responsibility and making decisions without waiting for approval.
So when the moment came to take the reins and pivot, I didn’t hesitate. I was prepared. I knew what I needed to do.
Because I had already built the habit of listening to my gut, I recognized my inner wisdom the moment it mattered most.
And since I had learned to trust it, I was able to follow through.
Tuning into your inner knowing isn’t a one-time thing—it’s a practice.
Consistently making space for quiet introspection—whether through meditation, journaling, yoga, or time in nature—strengthens your connection to your inner compass.
A few moments of stillness—a breath, a walk, a pause before reacting—can be the difference between self-doubt and self-trust.
Because you already possess the wisdom.
You just have to listen.
When You’re Feeling Stuck: Three Ways to Reconnect to Your Inner Knowing
(For those moments when doubt sneaks in and you need clarity fast.)
When moments of self-doubt creep in, or you find yourself second-guessing something important—here are three simple ways to tap into what you already know:
1️⃣ The Instant Gut Check
Think of a choice you’ve been struggling with.
Flip a coin. Before you look at the result, pause.
What are you hoping for? Is there a small part of you that wants it to land a certain way?
Now, look at the coin.
Does the result feel right? Or do you immediately want to flip again?
👉 Your reaction—not the coin—is your answer.
👉 The coin doesn’t decide for you—it reveals what you already know.
2️⃣ The First Thought, Best Thought Method
Grab a piece of paper.
Write down the first answer to this question:
If I weren’t afraid of getting it wrong, what would I do?
Stop writing. Don’t edit, don’t analyze—just look at what you wrote.
👉 Sometimes, the answer comes when we stop overthinking.
3️⃣ The Conversation with a Friend
Imagine a close friend comes to you with the exact problem you’re facing.
What would you tell them to do?
Now—what happens when you turn that advice back on yourself?
👉 The wisdom you’d offer someone else is often the wisdom you already have.
Final Thought
“Your inner knowing is your only true compass.”~ Joy Page
The hardest part isn’t finding the answer. It’s believing you already have it.
Listen deeply. Trust fully. When the moment comes, you’ll be ready.